((((Arianne))) No one can tell you how long is enough. You will know. If you haven't read DR, get a copy. It is very inciteful, and really gives you tips on how to handle your situation.
In terms of time, I look at things this way. In the grand scheme of my life, this is a short period of time. Your separation may have absolutely nothing to do with you. When you are the person who is hurting, it is hard to see past that pain. It consumes you, is all encompassing, and we tend not to look at the other person. Your H may be going through something that has absolutely nothing to do with you. Therefore, you wait as long as you can. You see, if you feel that you have waited long enough, that has to be your decision, and then you will have truly felt as if you have done everything you can. However, if you don't, you will alwsys wonder. And, there is no cardinal rule that says just because you and your H are separated that you can't start again. People walk away very easily when something like this happens.
it has to be your choice, not your friends, family, co workers. Yours. It is your life. No one can live it for you. So you do what your heart, soul and mind tell you too.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
