I truly think you need to get the focus OFF him though...and onto YOU and your cute little boys !
I know how hard that is, believe me, especially when you're feeling low about it all.
But you MUST.
You MUST, because otherwise your life will pass you by and you will have missed it, and all the wonderful things it has to offer - besides your H.
How about starting, by telling yourself that you are going to make this a fantastic day, that life is good and that you know God will give you only the best, and believe it !!!
Sweety, I so wish I could snap you out of it, but you have to do this yourself. And I know that you can !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Screaming helps MrsH. It really does. At times (in the old house) I'd have to go upstairs in my closet, close the door and scream into the bedsheets on the shelf. It gets something out for sure.
I know I'm probably sounding like a hypocrite here since I still have hards days, but look at your boys and know that YOU'RE the lucky one that has the boys ALL the time and JA has to live with his sh*tty life he's made.
I took a 2 hour nap, not because I was tired, but just because I was too depressed to deal with life. I wanted to just nap and have nice dreams.
I used to do that a lot in my early teenage years when I would get depressed. Now I find myself back there.
Maybe it's time I go back on ADs?
JA brought the boys back at 8:30pm while I was mowing the lawn. (I felt like I needed to accomplish something today after feeling guilty about napping) They weren't wearing their shoes. I asked them why and JA said "you didn't give me any socks."
I said to him "you told me to just pack one outfit for them because you had plenty of clothes for them at your house."
He said "well I wasn't talking about socks and underwear."
Me: S7 told me you brought him socks and underwear for them.
H: well when I send it home with them and don't get it back I have nothing.
I didn't say anything back to him. However I only have 1 pair of underwear of S7's and no socks.
Besides which, what do I look like? A laundry mat?
That upsets me. Are you a mind-reader??? How are you supposed to know what all he means when he says certain things to you? Geez! And yes, how are you also supposed to know what sock are "his" and which ones are from your house and to launder them as well???? I don't think so!
I agree with Fig...when Stepsons used to come over they would never have socks or underwear. We finally bought all our own stuff and labeled it.
Now that they are older and all the clothes have to be name brand, they want to wear them to school...the clothes go back and forth because the boys now know if they want to wear their favorite stuff on the weekends then they have to bring it with them.
Tell JA that you will be sending them in shoes and the outfit they have on. He can wash the outfits and send them home in the same thing if he is going to be petty about things!
Oh fig we think a like! when I had 3 boys at home I used to sew different coloured spots on the socks for each person. Made life so much easier especially when soooooooo many socks were navy or black but slightly different. Worth the initial efort. People thought me crazy. I do confess to a fettish over my airing cupboard too!
