"Granted they were the condoms that we bought for us, but she had them with her...although still unopened but why would she need to carry them?"
It's really hard to say, although for some reason I stuck a condom my fiance left here months ago in my pocketbook (just in case he ran out at his place) and I took the whole weekend off to myself, and it's still in my bag. If he came over and it fell out, he may be wondering.
It is possible she is also considering getting involved with someone or it could be that for some reason she stashed them there when she asked you to come back over or when she stopped at your place.
In any event I think it's best right now to not bring them up so that you are creating the distance and not behaving like a husband would.
"When she brought my son over she insisted that nothing happened and that i have nothing to be upset about. I just said that I was upset because she knew that she would not be coming home and that it was planned. So what am I to think when this happens? Am I wrong for thinking this?"
You're not wrong for thinking this, again you are thinking like a husband and it's natural to do so. Just "react" not like a husband but like someone removed.
