When life just hits you

[Cinderellaman]

Hi Angelica,

Thanks for getting back to me about this !!

He is validated by admiration, and may feel less guilt than many of them.

Yes, he loves the adoration, it 'feeds' him.

He seems truly to feel somewhat entitled to what he is doing. Hence, is less conflicted.

Very true, he feels that 'that' love he had for me is over, hence he MAY live the life he is living.

The OW is adoring, and sounds less overtly messed up than some of the OWs. -

I agree, this worries me a little, because she may not easily ruin their R that way...then again, it's not HER, it's HIM.

he saw his old life, and missed it.

Don't know if he missed...but maybe it did something with him.

But another scenario is that you will tire of his selfishness and immaturity unless he decides to do some serious growing up.

Many friends have told me that I have outgrown him, that he's not worth it, that I am a far better person now...weird, isn't it?!

I still think that we could make it work, when the time is right and both of our input is there. For now, nope. He's too far away.
Kids spent the weekend there, he left them with a babysitter Saturday, and he and ow slept in till 12noon on Sunday !
Thursday they also had a babysitter and this Thursday, I think he's got ow to babysit the kids...It's his loss. I don't bother him about it.

One day the kids may tell him, they also may not.

Thanks so much Angelica !! I was also happy to hear that you too had a great and FUN weekend !! So nice of your son's friends to drop by, just goes to show what a wonderful person you are !!!!