I need some impartial advice about my marriage situation -I have thought so hard I feel my head is going to explode but I cant make descision and neither it seems can husband. Married 28 years-Friendly but platonic marriage he was always emotionally withdrawn and had affairs.Last May as I was about to retire ...-bomb-"we both need to get a life I cant move to York(home town ) with you" I left the home and moved to my daughter-cried all summer and arranged divorce as far as decree nisi! Then he agreed to some counselling but never really engaged with it. I was amazed In November when he said that I had changed and could we hold the divorce.Told counsellor descision would be made in new year. Well Im still waiting .He calls me every few days and previously saw each other every other week but I blew it on our last meeting and said I couldnt go on as I finish temporary work soon and need to sort finances out.He said leave it a month and he would see his own counsellor but he hasnt. He says he doesnt want divorce because of his feelings for me but is frightened and isnt sure if we could live as man and wife. There has been/is another woman involved but he is holding her at arms length too.I am 58 He is 54.There is a strong bond between us but I am frightened he is slipping away also having his cake and eating it. My family think I am insane to wait any longer .I have the final signed divorce absolute letter in my bag but cant send it. Help!
