Work was all right. Busy, some stupid customers as always. But I got to work with two of my favorite people. And my most unfavorite person is no longer there - she got fired for messing with the cash drawers! Haha.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Yeah, some people are not so bright. And I seem to know a lot of them lately lol.
But then again, half the people in the world are below average intelligence!
I am tired and going to bed. H is camping this weekend I guess, so no repercussions yet. I suspect he has his phone off to avoid her lol. So...we shall see what happens.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Hi Michelle, Wow, that was a move out of leftfield, as they say! I didnt know you had her email address. Maybe she just said THanks :-) becuase she was embarressed or something?
I'm not sure it will help though...sending her the article. Its not her fault, its your Hs fault! This is about his choices, if it wasnt her, it might be someone else, shes just a symptom, right? I thought thats all A were. Your H needs to sort himself out and realise he is running from something good in his life (you!)
Do you think she would tell him you contacted her? I wonder if she will go into a tailspin and start harrassing him even more!
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Although I do have her e-mail, I sent this over IM.
While I realize if it wasn't her it would have been someone else, that doesn't change the fact that if she would actually completely end it with him he wouldn't have the A to escape from reality into.
Also, I think it would be really good for her. There's only so much that youth and naivety can excuse and she really needs to grow up and accept some responsibility for herself and her actions.
H's away message still says he's gone.
Considering she runs to him about everything, I'm sure she'll tell him I contacted her. No clue how he'll react though.
Happy Memorial Day! (((everyone)))
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Wow Michelle, that was a pretty bold move. I am not sure it will get the reaction you are looking for though. There is no reasoning with either of them right now.
You are giving OW power over you right now. She is not worth it. I bet that she suspects that something was going on with you and your H...thus the pressure on him. Let her screw it up all by herself.
As hard as it is, I think the A has to die a natural death without any pressure from you. If you do something to "damage" their R then he may resent you for it. Instead of seeing you in a good light he will think "I could have been happy if only you had stayed out of it." He has to figure it out on his own.
I am glad you have had some downtime this weekend. You needed it. Have a good memorial day!
I don't know what I am hoping for. Or what I expect will happen.
What I know is that she talked him into getting back into the A with her. That he is grudgingly going along with it and is complaining to everyone except me how she is driving him batty.
*sighs* Today it has been a year since the big BBQ we did where OW and her sister were over at our house. I am glad they don't get to spend this Memorial Day together...but I also wish I was with him.
I am going to watch the parade. My baby brother is marching today with his Army JROTC unit. Should be fun.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
((((Michelle)))) IMHO I think sending that IM was a little of taking back your life. Although I agree that contacting the OW is counterproductive in most cases, sometimes sending a little reminder of the WS is not a bad thing, but I wouldn't recommend it all the time obviously. I think OW's and OM's need to be reminded, sometimes, that there are S's involved here, S's that did not do anything to deserve the betrayal that they have endured. I wouldn't recommend doing it again, but a little reminder isn't necessarily a bad thing.
Think of this too, it's got to be burning her A$% that your H hasn't filed for divorce...a little poetic justice.
Have a great day!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I understand why you did it. As you know I have been tempted to contact OW too. Especially when she told H she wanted to make a trip here because she was "worried we would get back together."
What's done is done. I just don't want you to let her have any power over you.
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Think of this too, it's got to be burning her A$% that your H hasn't filed for divorce...a little poetic justice.
