I actually brought up my bank account online and and let her run wild with it. She was convinced I was sending money to my mom. I told her I wish I could afdford to but I can't. I think you are right with regards to a smokescreen.
I have actually asked her, what do I need to do to re-earn your trust. The reply was something along the lines of I should have to ask and I have to want to make this work and I don't want to.
It is very frustrating, which is one of the reasons why I think she is in a MLC of some sort. It seems there can be no good explanation or reasoning.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning