One of the big issues my wife has with me is that she says she doesn't trust me. She thinks I am having an affair and she thinks I am stashing money away, neither one of which is true. Does any one have any advice on how to rebuild trust when separated.
Why does she think such things? Does she give reasons for her suspicions? Is she normally distrustful? I don't think I have any suggestions, it just seems odd. You shldn't have to pay for an investigator on yourself. The $ issue shld be easy - just share the records th show where the $ go. Do a budget or spreadsheet or something. Is it a "real" accusation or just a smokescreen to cover up guilt over the Sep?
The affair issue - I don't know. I guess for me it wld depend on how you responded. For yrs I had no worries whatsoever. I always knew where H was and felt totally confident in his faithfulness. The time came when I felt less confident - we were on vacation w/ other couples and he paid little attn to me and more than usual to one of the other women. His reaction then and since when I asked him if there was something I shld know was angry and hostile - not the loving reassurance that wld allow a wife to drop her suspicions. How have you responded? Obviously, while sep your W will not know what you are doing or who with. Have you tried asking her what wld reassure her th you are still faithful and will continue to be?
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now
