Thanks TD. Yes he's the stubborn type so whatever happens will have to be his choice.
He tells me many positive things and I'm trying to dwell on those. His actions also show that he cares. There have been many advances in our sitch so I think I'll hang onto them.
I'm looking forward to our trip. D is so excited. Only 6 more days.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
This is a song that was so popular when I was in University. I never really thought about the lyrics though. It's something that rings true for my relationship with H. My actions didn't/don't show him how I feel about him. It's one thing to tell someone you love them but it's entirely different to really show someone you love them. Actions speak louder than words.
Jen
"More Than Words" Extreme
Saying I love you Is not the words I want to hear from you Its not that I want you Not to say, but if you only knew How easy it would be to show me how you feel More than words is all you have to do to make it real Then you wouldnt have to say that you love me Cause I'd already know
What would you do if my heart was torn in two More than words to show you feel That your love for me is real What would you say if I took those words away Then you couldnt make things new Just by saying I love you
More than words
Now Ive tried to talk to you and make you understand All you have to do is close your eyes And just reach out your hands and touch me Hold me close dont ever let me go More than words is all I ever needed you to show Then you wouldnt have to say that you love me Cause I'd already know
What would you do if my heart was torn in two More than words to show you feel That your love for me is real What would you say if I took those words away Then you couldnt make things new Just by saying I love you
More than words
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
My W likes to focus on songs as well for her myspace....unfortunately they are ususally ones that are not too good for our stich. I try not to read too much into it because she very rarely knows the lyrics....
ex: She use to think the song "A bad case of loving your" was "A bad taste of loving you"
When was the last time your family saw you and D in Canada?
My Mom is coming to visit next week. I am a bit nervous about it because my moms R with my W has been rocky in the past and I don't want my Mom to know how upset I am over this whole stich. I need her to be very nice to W and to not pry me for any information. I don't want her to hold a grudge if me and W work everything out.
Incidently what part of Canada will you be visiting (if you don't mind sharing)?
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Hi My H isn't good with lyrics of songs either. Sometimes he makes me laugh because he's way off.
I hope your Mom isn't too judgemental of your W and sitch. My Mom can be horrible like that. I haven't even told anyone about us. My Mom will try and blame H for almost everything and I don't want to deal with it.
My Parents and a couple of Aunts and Uncles were here during Christmas. I'm going to Newfoundland. No I don't mind you asking.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Hi W2G just biting my tongue is difficult but I will do it.
The weather in Nfld is very unpredictable (the only place where you can experience all four seasons in one day!). We'll be there until the 8th of June. The flight is a killer: from Caracas to Toronto is 5.5 hours with a stopover of 90 minutes and then to St. John's is another 3. We leave at midnight and arrive at midday so even though the trip is long it's at night so we don't loose valuable time. D is excited. She's been wanting to go to Canada since she was old enough to know where it is. She's a bit disappointed that there won't be any snow. I hope icebergs will be enough fo her.
Jen
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
H took D today like he does every Sunday. I told him I didn't know how to be his friend because everytime he mentions some friend or activity I get super jealous. He told me we had to learn to be friends and that don't think for a minute he's not lonely. He said he's probably the loneliest man on the planet right now. He said that he's living with his parents but they're just there. He also said that he spends more time with me than anyone else. It clicked with me that that's why he always "drops" by. He's lonely.
I guess it really is possible to be very busy and have friends but to be lonely.
He'll be staying in the apartment while D and I are gone. Not sure but that might make him even lonelier. Should I even wish my H be lonely because loneliness may lead to missing me? Is that mean of me?
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
How are you doing? When I read that last post I wondered how the conversation about you not knowing how to be H's friend came about. Did he initiate it? If he didn't, naughty you! No R talk, remember!!
On the plus side, it's interesting that he's lonely. I don't think it's bad to want him to be more lonely and miss you, but I do thin it indicates that he's unhappy within himself. He obviously has some stuff to deal with. If you can be there as a friend for him, with no pressure and be a rock for him that might help a lot......
Yup I started it. I guess thats a big no no for me right now. I REALLY need to drop all topics R related.
I know that for me to be his friend would be a huge jump in the right direction. Being a best friend was something Diehard credited to saving his M. H wants us to be friends. He could have easily walked away and never looked back but he didn't.
Ok no R talk. I have 5 days before we leave for the trip. 5 days with no R talk will be a good step.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
