I have known you throughout all of this. What I have observed from my situation is that once I did as Homer recommends, COMPLETELY give up. Things started to drastically change for the better. I gave up everything. I stopped calling her, I stopped speaking to her, I always wore dark sunglasses so that she could not read my eyes, I went out and bought a new house (sign of totally moving on), I stopped accepting all of the blame for our failed marriage and when I am around her, I am always on the phone smiling and laughing.
Our D is not finalized, but I hold all of the chips. I have all of the control and she now respects me. I am not a jerk or anything, I just tell her how it is. I find it ironic now that D4 makes comments to me saying that 'mommy told me that she misses you', 'mommy said that she loves you', etc. I use to get my hopes up when I heard these comments. I now don't even react of think twice about these comments.
My point, is to be successful, you will need to show her what she is missing out on. You and I know, there are tons of jerks out there. My ex is now seeing that. She knows that I am living happily. The only thing that I am missing is seeing my daughter every day. Every other day is not that bad.
Let's chat on the phone.
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
