Deuteronomy 8:16 (NIV) 16 He gave you manna to eat in the desert, something your fathers had never known, to humble and to test you so that in the end it might go well with you.
This was "my" verse for so long. It's funny to me - how we assume this must mean THIS. I assumed the testing, humbling, knocking in my knee caps was all to end up with a better marriage with the X.
So.......looking at life now.......I'll post the blessings I see so far:
* Peanut and I are awesome * closer relationship with family * more friends * job is kicking it into high gear finally! * Peanut is doing great in school, listening to me, obeying, etc. * I am not angry any more. I am not really anything when it comes to the x, except sad for him right now - because of his dad.
I know there are more but I just wanted to remind myself I guess. I did assume that the verse was regarding our marriage. And I guess when you're in the thick of it, you just can't see God's plan.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
was all to end up with a better marriage with the X. 
