Sounds like you have been having a bit of a roller coaster ride but it seems like you have been handling it pretty well. Your H sounds a little like my W in that once they get there mind set on something they feel they need to follow through with it, even if it doesn't make sense. From some of your posts it sounds like he is very confused and being the LBS we have little choice but to GAL and smile and bear it because anything else pushes them father away. The fact that he said he loved you is a very good sign (I haven't heard that in over 6 months, and only infrequently say it myself.....DBing)
Have you two gone on any dates since separating. I still think this trip to Canada will be good for you....he will miss you.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning