I agree with you Lisa. There is a lot of confusion going on by both parties. He even said his C has made him think and makes him doubt his decisions. But has stuck to his guns about the D. He said we're divorced once we signed the papers. I know technically that's not true but why argue right?
I'll be his friend but I'm not sure how I'll react if and when he "moves on". I feel like I only have so much time before he does. I also think I've put pressure on myself due to that. On the other hand I don't think H is going to go jumping into bed with the next best thing that comes along either.
No one knows the future. My C says that all we have is the here and now. There are people who dwell on the past and the present isn't appreciated, there are people who do whatever in the present to influence the future but don't enjoy the present and there are stil others who focus upon what the can do to make the present the best it can be.
Which one will you be?
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
