I have come to the conclusion it dosnt really matter why she was there, I do know my S knows whats what. I had my wonderful B by my side, and he WAS there for the right reason! and thats whats important!
Also, it was good for Ry's sake that he was there, it was his day and to not be there would have been something Ry would always remember.
Bethie's points were also a great other perspective and likely the very reasons OW was there, his support system.
As for comparing OW to you, totally irrelevant. We know the dissatisfaction so many WAS's experience which lead them to walk away is based in their inability to find contentment in and satisfaction in their lives- it is their problem although they blame the LBS. So, you could have been perfect and he still would have been dissatisfied.
When and if I get married again, I know X will do some sort of comparison even though she is the one that left me. Although "chemistry" is important, Ms. Right may very well not be as attractive or fashionable etc and X may even feel a bit smug, thinking I had it good with her. All that really matters is that you, I or our dear imaginary friends are happy with the new mates who come into our lives and we know B floats your boat.
Enjoy the BBQ's!
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
