I'm just about to go to sleep, but thought your post was really interesting. I've read a lot that when in the midst of a crisis, the WAS say these things about getting a D and then re-marrying, or other similar things that seem to make no sense. Apparently it's a mark of their confusion and internal conflict.
I wonder if H feels the D is something he needs so he can feel free to explore his demons, whilst expecting you to still be there and to be his friend. I know my H seems to think the same thing- not D related, but for me to be there and be his friend and support him, even though he left. It's so confusing isn't it?
Great job on not cuddling him though- that must have been hard to resist! And yes, it was acting AS IF. YAY for DBing without even knowing it!
