Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
ah ha!! I KNEW that was what was bugging you. AND YOU KNOW I understand completely!! I am not going to add fuel to the fire but my friend "it is what it is..." and it is shi** and garbage poop and well it just plain sucks!!
At least you are more functional then me and dont go and stalk him (via ways of the internet) to see what where and how much he is doing or whatever....you need to do somehting fun for you....(yeah i know easier said then done!!)
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Just having a difficult time lately with that, but I like how you think about it - a babysitter.
Ex dropped off the kids today. I was across the street talking with the neighbor guy. Ex gave him a nasty look as he pulled in the driveway. I walked up to ex and was pleasant and smiley. I asked how the kids were and we laughed about some stuff. He looks sad and forlorn. I'm just glad to have my babies back away from him and his bad influences.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T your X was jealous I dont think many of our H would be able to really handle us Lbs moving on in a new R Good for them they dont have to..atleast not now glad your kids are home peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
ahh the idea of us moving on. i agree with you peace. my son asked me this the other day "do you think dad would be wierded out by you dating someone else...??" hmm i wonder. i do htink that he would find it strange that he no longer holds my heart...but isn't it sad that they dont know that already??
trusting you made it through a tough weekend...way to go!! HUGS!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
You know, I believe that at some level many of them KNOW that we still love them. I have actually had this confirmed by a former MLCer, who said 'I always knew I could and would go home'[and that was a crazy one]
My kids are convinced that my h would be totally freaked out if I started dating. [Actually I think they would too, for all they tell me that they wouldn't!] But who knows. Ultimately we have to live as we think best for us and our family, and if we do start a new r, with regard to that person too, and not with one eye on our crazy spouse.
