I came over here the other day to catch up.. and I saw Sandi2 post. Now you know me I was all ready to write some stuff down. I typed it out.. it was true FG style. Just as I was about to click submit.. something said don't do it. It just felt wrong.. I don't know why but it did. I just let it go.
Then I come and read today. I read another stitch where Sandi2 had posted. She indicated that she had upset someone. I knew where to read next.
I am a little concerned about you.
"I'm not sure why, but the subject matter of this post where you are trying to generate a debate on what we LBS's expect got me quite riled maybe cos it sounded a bit flippant, maybe cos of the way my current sitch is going at the moment so I hope or would ask that it gets moved elsewhere"
I have been a few steps ahead of you most of the time. I have walked thru alot of the same things.
"And guess what I can't even talk about it with W cos that's classed as raking up the past. Really now I see situations develop and they are like pre-planned ambushes, I now see that arguments we get into are set up. It's really weird cos now I see things and its not me it's all about W. Someone tell me I'm wrong."
You had time to look back on the stuff you did.. you had to come to terms with it. She has not had to do that. She has moved from place to place with all her stuff intact. Things are changing and the key point.. you guys being together.. you see eye to eye on. Keep that in mind. I am a little different than you.. I don't need to know. If I did I would have to use my Advanced DAM skills and come up with a solid way I could get her to come to me on the subject. You have to do something to keep it moving forward. You guys are not communicating effectively it one feels left out. We know what happens if this continues. I have had to many times bite my tongue on things and say to her.. I need your help here. How do I approach this subject. The second I see her balking I slow down. Then continue on asking her for input the whole way. The more I do this.. the closer we become. The more we work together. I have not had to walk thru the discussion you are trying to have.. so I don't know how much I can help. If you want to throw up some specific situations.. I'll get my spin mode working for you.
Keep looking forward. Let me know if I can help.
And to Sandi2.. Thanks for all you have done. We are not that far apart. I appreciate all the advice you have handed out. I have no ill feelings toward you. Again.. I have a post that would be great for your discussion. If you want me to put it there.. let me know. I again am curious what some of the answers may be.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
