Kikifree - the control thing [to go back a bit] I had a VERY interesting conversation while stuck in traffic with a friend of mine, today. SHe was abused in her previous relationship, and she said afterwards she became a total control freak for quite a while. Because control had been taken from her, she felt she now had to control everything to feel safe. Now, since so many of our MLCers have been abused as children, and that MLC is perhaps their waking up subconsciously to this, the 'control freakery' makes more sense. FWIW my h is also getting meansr and madder and I have been at this about as long as you . . . Digging in for the duration??
