Hi Addie, TD and Seek. Thanks for the encouragement
Well, we went with his cousin to eat sushi and then went for drinks. Overall we all had a nice time. I didn't do very well I'm afraid with DBing. I keep slipping up in the same ways over and over. I think it's sometimes best for me to simply stop talking. I evaluate everything he says and then talk about it. I learned last night that he still sees the same problems that existed before we S that hinder reconcillation. At least he's not trying to drive me out of his life. I have such a great opportunity to change his heart and mind but I'm standing in my own way.
We dropped them off at ILs and then we came home. H slept on the sofa. This morning he left to go to work.
Last night was a huge learning experience for me. Here is a list of positives and negatives in my sitch. I think a list will give me more perspective
Positive 1. Spend time together 2. Says he loves me 3. Have encouraging convos 4. No OW 5. Open and honest with each other 6. Comfortable with each other
Negatives 1. H wants a D 2. Long cheesless tunnels 3. I haven't "let go" / detached 4. H said he's not coming home. (see 3 #) 5. Too many R talks 6. Need to do not think about doing.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
