I think there is truth to both arguments. My W had an affair for exactly 6M. She then ended the EA/PA and asked for a S to think things out. She moved back 3M later. I let DB slide after finding out about the A on X-mas eve when the OM sent me a letter about there R because he was jealous she was coming back to me. I have been passive-aggressive about her lack intimacy. Bottom line she fell out of love me several years ago (news to me) and has started up the EA again with OM a few weeks ago. This time she wants a D because she has put everything into the M and it still won't work. Bull sh@t . I think they are right that 6M is the time for the fantasy to wear off, but if there is also an EA especially with W then it is never fully over. Just waiting for the next opportunity to present itself when the M stumbles.
