Hello. I want to know if I should go ahead and file.
My husband left me 5 years ago. In that time we have maintained contact, although it is mostly on his terms, (ie he calls me). Our co-parenting seems to go pretty well especially with our youngest who was 16 when he moved out.
He left saying he was looking for a romantic love. He felt we had married too young and that he had missed out on a lot of things. I was devastated, but managed to stop begging and pleading about a year after he left.
He has dated, and been in one long term (year) relationship, of which I know nothing about other than he was with someone. I,on the other hand, have tried to go out and build a new life, with new friends, and experiences, not always as completely as possible, but better than before.
Our finances are still joint. We share discussions about college payments and bills, and he has never withheld money from me. But there is no plan in place for savings at this time. ONly the retirement fund.
He has an apartment in the city, I continue to live in the house in the suburbs. When he first left, I would hear from him almost every day, then every 3 days, now it's down to once a week, more or less. When our daughter is not at home we might see each other every 4-6 weeks.
I'm wondering if I should go ahead and file. Is there any hope of reconciling, given the lack of contact, after 5 years?
Married: 25 years Separated: 5 years Kids: 2, ages 21 and 24 Me: 53 H: 50
