running you are so right! And I am so upset with myself that I cannot be cool and detached, I try, and sometime I am good, but then a small thing and the act collapses. She actually doesn't talk much about OM, but in a way or another it comes out in the discussions, I guess I bring it up, damn! I promised myself so many times not to do it! When we fight she also keeps the long face for days, even if I try to make piece, and that too makes me suffer, I think a good 180 would be not to care.... once I tried, but all the tension... and the long face.... I feel like screaming JUST GET OVER IT!!!!
H4H - we are so much on the same boat!
I went to a "divorce class" organized by the church, and was about forgiving. They said that bitterness is like drinking poison hoping the other person is going to die. So true! The day after I want to a meditation seminar, - that too was about forgiving and they too made the same example - it MUST be true - but they charged $10 for it. Maybe the key could be to have "compassion" for my W. I don't know....
tiredandlost, thank you for your comment, The mystery is that my W thinks she is a great mother, she says that what she is doing does not involve the kids, just our M....(?) that I have to keep being a good father and the kids are going to be fine.... so basically the responsibility is mine! She built her imaginary world and I cannot do anything about it.
