Just wanted to chime in with a personal opinion. Take it for what it's worth (probably not all that much, lol).
Actions that are motivated by "sending a message" would be better handled by actually delivering the message than thru a symbolic action of some kind.
You yourself mentioned that having your kids was a good thing. While I can see the need to have your wife embrace the reality of your divorced status, you don't really want to use time with the kids to do that, do you? If you get lucky enough to get an extra night with the kids, I would think that would be great (unless of course you had plans - but you could simply explain that).
If this is going to become an issue between the two of you, maybe it would be better to talk it out first, before it gets to a request that you choose to deny.
Your latest post I think leans in this direction, so maybe you're coming to this viewpoint anyway.
Lots of reasons to NOT give up hope yet in your story I believe.
Always impressed with your thoughtfulness.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
