thanks for the up date Hope. I'm glad you are recuperating well. I think it's interesting that your H has been so 'attentive' during ths time. Let's see what unfolds (if anything)
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Hope, I'm glad to see that you are home and the surgery is over and done with. May you have a speedy recovery. Please follow your doctor's orders to the "T".
As for your h, I'm glad to see that he's concerned about you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks so much. I'm relieved that the surgery is behind me, too. Just concentrating on getting back to 100% and not letting whatever H is doing affect that.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Not much to report on. Feeling much better; almost back to normal now. So grateful for that.
H calls and texts daily, asking how I am feeling. I remind myself it doesn't mean anything except his concern about my health. It's nice that he cares at least about that. A few evenings ago, he called to tell me about his new work schedule and transfer to a different unit, which, I will admit, is a much more managable work schedule that would have been such a plus during the time we were together. I couldn't help but feel a little jealous about it but I didn't say that. He saw a need to change his work situation before he worked himself into the ground, and he made it.
I predict soon his constant contact will dwindle down as he reassures himself my surgery went just fine and I'm ok.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
It is sad he can not find his way to comit to more than his simple caring right now, but at least he is showing that he does. Most importantly, you are healing well and getting back to your fine self. You must be doing something right so keep it up.
he called to tell me about his new work schedule ....... will admit, is a much more managable work schedule that would have been such a plus during the time we were together. I couldn't help but feel a little jealous
Hope I'm glad you are nearly back upto 100% fitness. I know you don't hold out for your M anymore (and that's understandable and healthy) BUT I hope you can at least see that your H is starting to think rationally again. It looks to me like he is beginning to care about and work on himself. That has to be good even if it's too late for your M. You seem to be one of the lucky ones and have retained a friendship with your H surely you want that friend to have a healthy outlook on life?
Take care.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Hi, Was2. Nice to hear from you. Yup, you're right, of course: this is all he can offer, so that's what is offered. It does bring me some comfort that after all the pain over the past years, he does actually worry and care about my well being.
ACJ, I surely do wish him a healthier outlook on his life. No doubt. It's difficult to be happy about it sometimes, as I wish he had taken steps like these to bring more order to his chaotic schedule(s) and put family life in more of a priority. Who knows, he may still be seeing the new gf and perhaps he had to put up or shut up? I don't ask these things when he contacts me to check on my recovery.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Yup, you're right, of course: this is all he can offer, so that's what is offered. It does bring me some comfort that after all the pain over the past years, he does actually worry and care about my well being.