I am trying to keep the PMA. This board is helping. I don't feel so alone, and it has helped fill some time tonight. Friday evening, the start of Memorial Day weekend and I am sitting here alone. No word from H. I guess he is probably at the bar. That makes 4 days in a row. On the positive side, this really isn't a surprise to me and if he isn't here he can't be making me miserable by yelling. He isn't the kind of guy that will come home drunk and pick a fight. He will hit the couch and sleep there. At least I get the bed!
I do feel that this is MLC for him. All of the things that I have read reslly point to that. I'm sorry to think of you in the same boat. I never thought much about wives experiencing it. I know now from my reading that they do. It's more the norm I guess to think about the typical man with the Corvette convertable or the young bimbo on his arm. It is very sad to think of your wife going thru MLC when you have such young children. I'm sure you heart aches.
My first D was very hard on my 2 sons. They were early teens at the time. Their dad had cheated on me repeatedly during our M, but the final straw for me was the long time affair that he would not break off. I tried everything I could think of at the time, of course this was before the DB books. Looking back at this I realize it was probably MLC for him. It was a bitter D and a horrible custody battle. Very expensive, but the cost to our boys is not something that can ever be measured. That was 14 years ago. My boys are now 24 and 21, but in various ways we all grieve the loss of the family.
That is why I am so very determined to ride this MLC out with my current H. I don't think anything will ever hurt me as badly as my 1st D, and so I keep reminding myself that I can do things differently this time. I know that all of my cheerleaders will help!
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
