This is an NEVERENDING story. No one from that side showed. The case has been dismissed.
I really dont know what to do. What do you do with a person that seemingly does not want to be married and seemingly does not want to be divorced ?
What do I do now?
Well, crap, sweetie, it is so unnecessary for you to get all emotionally prepared, and then have this happen.
But, incidents like this just prove to me that there is a difference between a person in MLC seeking a D, and a "regular" person who has just had enough and gets Dd, no fuss, no muss.
He is crazy, absent, on another planet, whatever. You can't really do anything, IMO, except exactly what you've been doing. Taking careful, well thought-out steps towards living your own life the way you want to, independent of what he is doing.
Of course it really is your choice as to whether at this point, for your health and happiness, you want to file, or to just sit still and let him twist in the wind some more. Either way, you got support here!
So, my attorney was able to research the case and now we are scheduled to go back to court on July 7. I really want to move and feel that I can’t until this is all settled. At this point, I will be happy to get this over with already so I am going to ask him for a sit down so that we can settle some of this ourselves.
I am just ready to move on. He is very flaky. My kids come home from every visit with him saying that he gets mad at everything and yells a lot. They say that things are not the same with him. I felt bad but, what can I do? It is what it is.
As for me, I am starting to panic that I will not have someone for me ever again. I feel like a social misfit sometimes because I am always alone. I work so much just to try and keep things afloat that I have lost all sense of myself and having fun. I wonder if a “Mike Brady” exists for me.
Awww... What would I do without you guys and gals?
So, I went to a fabulous party on Saturday nite... ALONE as usual. I am just feeling a little down because, of course I am always alone. I know that it will pass but, in the meanwhile... oy vey. 40 and fabulous is one thing but fabulously alone all is the time is wearing on me...
I hate that they get mad at the kids too. I mean really, get over it already and live with your decisions. I mean, is this not the way taht you want things to be... if that is the case then you should be jumping for joy, huh? Twisted jerks.
To answer your question, Cat... I DONT EVEN REMEMBER !
I got a copy of what took place at court (the real deal). It seems to me that his lawyers have relieved themselves from the case and he has been given 30 days to find new representation, if he wants.
So, I see him during a "kid swap" and he pulls me to the side and kisses me. Oy vey. So I say, "Why dont you love me anymore? I really could not think of anything else but I was thinking WTH. So, this is where the story takes an unexpected turn...
He started to turn away and then he turned back around, stopped in his movement and looked at me intently and said "I do love you." for the first time in four years. I was stunned as I did not expect to hear it, at all. I really expected to hear nothing or see the MLC fog face.
I am not saying that it will change anything necessarily and i know that it is a long road back from MLC fog but I am sure that it took a lot of courage for him to say this.
We still live separate lives and I am not expecting any changes as all of those steps will be up to him. Funny, my life is no longer contingent upon how he feels about me. A short time ago, I would have jumped all over this and been all happy and ready to play house again. But this, did not change anything. I just savored the moment and enjoyed it.
I did not change how I deal with him since then. I have no expectations. I have not increased my calls or contacts. I am just going about my business and guessing that he is too. If he decides that he wants his family and I decide that it could work for me, I might consider it. But this is jumping ahead and I dont' feel the need to do so right now.Life is funny that way.
MLC, ain't it a B****H ? Tune in to next week's episode of "Let's See What Happens"
