Well I'm now pretty certain the fights with OW are firing all the spew that has come my way this week.
I just got home from work and when I have finished this post I am going back out to work again.
D12 reminded me that she was going out with H tonight. He knocked on the door not 5 mins after I got in. He did the usual preamble: is D18 in (no), is S14 here (no I haven't seen him just got in from work). I carried on doing what I needed to do. Then D12 came down the stairs so I thought they would be straight off BUT no he saved the best question till last (and in front of D12).
He asked if I had heard back from my L. I said yes and I understand she had sent his L a fax. He said she had but it said she hadn't done anything and she was going on holiday. That isn't true (I haven't received a copy yet but it was read out to me on the phone). I just said it didn't say that at all. He then told me that he has instructed his L to sue my L for costs and compensation for the stress that her slowness has caused HIM! WTF
I never said a word. She will eat him for breakfast!
He left w/o saying anything else. D12 was giggling as they left b/c they had decided to go for a walk and he said I'll just have to put my walking shoes on they are in the car. She looked at me in a knowing way and I had to turn around so that I wouldn't laugh out loud.
On and on this sorry story goes.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
During the divorce process mine was always threatening me with suing and going after my lawyer, etc....
They are such babies at this stage.
CONTROL CONTROL CONTROL
They have none so they try to control you...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Tonight I helped my S15 fill out an application form for a part time job b/c he asked me to. Now D12 says that I only care about him I tried to explain that I didn't do anything that I wouldn't do for her or her sister. She swore at me and locked herself in the bathroom to cry.
God give me strength b/c I sure need it right now
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Also just remembered a convo I had with S15 in the car when I took him back to Hs. Firstly it was only 10.30pm and he had tried to ring H to come and get him. His mobile was switched off and he was answering his home phone. Good job it wasn't an emergency. I did express to S15 how I thought this was poor judgement on Hs behalf. He said something about H trusting him and i just said it's not about the trust it's about your dad knowing you are safe.
He told me that OW has friends coming tomorrow at about 10am. I had offered to pick him up so that he could take back the application form we had filled in together. He said he had a very busy day. Before OWs friends arrive he has to mow the grass, clean the car and clean the bathroom! I raised my eyebrows at this but can't remember what i said. S15 did tell me he was getting paid extra money over and above the pocket money H is giving him. I was secretly a litte annoyed b/c as you know S15 would never do any jobs for me even if I offered to pay him. I didn't say anything as I didn't want to fall out with S15 again. I also had a bit of a laugh to myself b/c a few weeks ago this was a boy who couldn't get out of bed before lunch time at the weekends and now he has to get up at the crack of dawn to do all these jobs before mid morning.
I did ask him if everything was still alright at Hs. He said yes. I said he didn't have to wait until H went on holiday to come home. He said he knew that but he was happy where he was for now. I just said that's ok then (but secretly dying inside).
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I tried to explain that I didn't do anything that I wouldn't do for her or her sister. She swore at me and locked herself in the bathroom to cry. 