Can I give him a kind, immediate kick in the a$$ into stage 3?
Somehow I think that would be more 'conscious compliance' than 'conscious competence'
Hehehe!
GFI - Yes, in the last week or so, he's said that he wants full custody of the boys. He was also pushing for it the last several months prior to him moving back in.
He really does love the boys, but in my honest opinion, it is about the money. He does not want to give me ONE CENT. This was also an issue from the start. Before he was leaning towards wanting full custody, he was always trying to get me to agree to a certain amount per month and promise to not ever come after him for more. He also did not want his wages garnished; he wanted me to trust him that "the check was in the mail".
HA! FAT CHANCE. In EVERY sitch that I am aware of (in my family, circle of friends, and in H's), those promised checks NEVER came, and the single moms in these sitches were always struggling to get what was owed to the kids. I will not agree to such a thing, and I don't care if H doesn't like it either.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
