I'm not sure why I suspected it but I did, so I called my H cell phone, blocked my number, no answer. I called OW office, blocked number again & they said she was on vacation. I know he is with her!!!
I'm not sure why I suspected it, I guess it was just a feeling & I know how he is when he has a long weekend, he wants to do something. I'm sure he is getting into financial trouble, I know that is not my concern but I can't help worry about him like that b/c I know how he was when I met him & he doesn't know how to manage money. I took over his checkbook about 6 months after we met (I'm a bookkeeper). Of course I only paid his bills & with his credit cards I could only pay min. After we married, I took out a loan in my name, paid off all CC's plus his student loan, cut up his CC's & told him we would pay them off at the end of each month. I had his credit score up to 827 as of 2006. But he is a spender & I'm a saver. When I could see his CC's before D, he was only paying off a little at a time & he has 4 CC's now. We only had 2 together.
And he had the nerve to tell his lawyer that I had to refinance the house & SUV so if I made a late pymt or missed a pymt that it wouldn't ruin his credit rating. And, while it's still in his name if I'm late I will have to sell immediately. I'm the one that kept him from going bankrupt when we first met (he did admit that to mediator) & he knows me better than that b/c I don't like late charges or paying interest on CC's.
Oh well, I know I'm not responsible for his money now but he said I used him b/c I didn't work full time for the last 3 years, yet I supported him when he didn't have a pot to p!ss in & helped him make his child support pymts. I told him in the letter I wrote to him that he said I was using him but he didn't know what being used was but he was about to find out. He had told me he had been lonely for years (he didn't show it & he doesn't hide his feelings very well), I also told him that if he stayed on this path that he didn't know what lonely was but he was going to find that out also.
It just hurts so bad & I just can't stand the thought of them off having fun like we used to do. In the fall of 2006 we had the best vacation & I was looking forward to 2007 but that's when he hit me with the D bomb!
I know, I'm just devastated right now. I just keep praying that he will see her for what she really is, maybe she is flirting with someone else while they are on vacation. I had to be careful about how I looked at someone else, he is a jealous person so I doubt she will do that for him. She is older than he is about 1 1/2 years so what I'm afraid of is that she may try to hang on to him since she is getting older, but she has already had 3 husbands or more so I don't know. My H really is a good man, I just hope she doesn't change her ways to hang on to him, I'm not sure she can at her age. (She will be 50 in Nov.)
Thanks for letting me vent, this is the only place I can do that & get great support!!!!
