Minkerman: Never thought I'd make it here!

[daybyday]

hi minkerman

just stumbled across this thread. will go back and read your others. although me and w were not physically sep. emotionally we were. then, it seemed like out of the blue, she decided to work on m and work through our problems. of course a lot more to it than that. i can relate to a lot of your feelings about waiting for other shoe to drop. seems my whole demeanor is based on her mood. thats where my gal needs to continue. also the part about affection dropping off kind of hits home also. after w decided to work on m, she finally let her guard down and we talked, talked, hugged, kissed, other things too......but so often when we talk, she feels need to remind me that this is going to take time to work through. i asked her why she felt the need to tell me that. she said because if we move too fast things are going to go right bck to the way it was b4. she is right. so best to go slow. but its hard when things are going good not to get carried away and start going all " melty man" as puppydogtails puts it. hard to be COOL when the love of your life starts to show some interest after being rejected by her for so long. i would love for you to read my sitch but i dont know how to add a link to my post. how do i do that? anyway, congrats on being where you are. sounds like you worked your ask off. i did too, just not for as long. we both have infinite work left to do. kind of scary, but a year from now, maybe all our crap will just be a bump in road. talk again later