Me and the x's divorce came through on December 20 2007 and he already has plans to marry the OW that he started cheating on me with. Heck if I see her, I would either give her my condolences or tell her good luck. This just goes to really show me that he knows nothing about true marriage and will jump in and out of it as he pleases but the main thing now is that I am so happy and better than the last 10 years of our marriage.
My X has yours beat. LOL Our divorce was final 1/31/08 and he married the woman he claimed to never have had an affair with on 2/14 (yep, Valentine's Day, isn't that romantical!!! LOL) My family would like to thank her for taking my X! ANd you are right, it is obvious that neither of them know what marriage really means, or what it takes to make it work, or they would not have done what they did. And it is apparent to others as well. I can't tell you how many people have said to me how much better off I am, and these are people who were mutual friends with X and I. They all see him for who and what he is, as well as seeing his new wife and their marriage for the disgrace that it is to the institute of marriage.
I am also much happier than I was for several years. I realize now that what I had in my mariage wasn't what I wanted or deserved. You deserve better too Kimmie, and you will get better in the long run, it just takes a little while to realize it. Hang in there.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
