The only thing you can do is encourage your H to have the best relationship he can with your kids.
Upside, Pre-DB, that's what I would do. That's always been my role in the R - giving H my opinion on what's the right thing to do. Now I feel like I have to let go and let him make his own choices. As for being done - of course I still wish I could spend the rest of my life with the guy I married, but every day, I feel more and more ready to file.
peace, Except for not filing, it definitely feels to me like my H is "clearly really done".
Trusting, Your H didn't get re-married already, did he? Engaged? I don't remember reading that in your posts. I wouldn't put it past my H's ogre to "accidentally" get pregnant.
It occurred to me today that I didn't think of H coming home when I was picking out my new place. It's definitely not a place that H would enjoy living in, but it's the kind of place I've always wanted to live in - at least once. He likes everything new. This new place is really old, but has a lot of character to it and is missing a lot of the amenities and little luxuries H couldn't live without. On one hand, it made me realize I'm really moving forward as if H is not coming home. Then of course, I have to wonder if choosing this place to live in will keep H away for good.
Feeling really lonely these days. I have my friends who I love and I have plenty to keep me busy, but I'm definitely missing being in a R. My patience for H is wearing very thin.
Oh - I've mentioned this before but thought we could all use a little hope: My cousin and his W, who D'ed him and was involved with an OM, have moved back in together! I thought their D was done quickly, but I just found out that it was dragged out over several years. By the time it was finalized, it was only 3 months later that they started talking about moving back in together. And now that's exactly what they've done - much to their S8's delight.
