W and I piecing this M back together #2

[GFI]

Sorry - last attempt at posting got a bit mangled!

Well, this is a really really interesting angle...I would bet that at face value most men would want the "full-monty" in terms of remorse in order to get some validation for their position - ie standing and fighting for what they believe to be right and proper.

But when they consider it a bit more objectively they might well see that this is unrealistic and not necessarily desirable...that sticking out for this may well be counter-productive and little more than seeking to "prove a point".

An honest and straightforward conversation acknowledging the pain, hurt and the damage that has been done on all fronts would do it for me as it stands and I would like to give and receive a heartfelt "sorry". TBH I am trying to forget the OM and the last thing I want to do is to rake up old emotions in W. This is about her and me, not him, and I don't want to give him any air-time at all.

For many of us this process is about creating the future and if I am ever fortunate to be having this conversation with my W I hope I will be able to remember this good intention!

Best - GFI