Aud,
It's good to get the feedback and validation. Thanks.
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What makes it okay for me is that I'm not making choices out of fear, I'm doing what I want to do.
I think this is the key. Well said.
In a way, it's all that needs to be said. Make your choices, life your life. Take responsibility for yourself.

The 180s. Hmmmm, tricky. I feel like you do. I've a lot on my plate too. My C has kind of pushed me out the door twice, maybe 3 times, already, seemingly saying I don't need him anymore. Maybe that's how HMO's work.

I really like the book, Passionate Marriage. It really is giving me a lot ot think about. And, it seems to come down to what you've been saying; take care of yourself, work on your own problems. It takes real courage, because it presents real risks. I'd love for you to read it and tell me what you think.

I think my mini 180s are: not assuming negative intention from my W. Doing what I want to do, without asking persmission. Not saying I'm sorry for things I'm not sorry about or had no control over. I don't know. I still need to think of 180s.

I hope you have a great weekend.


M45, W45,S15, D10,
Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07
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