Cleaning out the Cobwebs

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Phoenix_spark (PS for short?),
I really like what you said, and if I may paraphrase, it was:
1. focus on yourself. 2. Let go of what you can't control. 3. even as adults, change comes, and there is the promise of a better life.

I like your college analogy quite a bit. You don't know exactly what is going to happen, what you will find. You know there will be hard times, and good. Then you just need to follow it through, jump it, just do it, without garauntees of the outcome.

M is about kids, and it's unfair that they suffer while we (I say we, even if we feel it's really just our spouses. Our spouse's actions have caused us to change and grow too) change. We do the best we can, and hope we show a good example for our kids.

I think my W is really hurt by what she did to the kids. You can't get that back. Of course, you have to forgive yourself (she has to forgive herself) and move on anyway, no matter how bad it was. I don't know your story, but I hope firstly that your kids are well and will be well, and secondly that your W finds herself. It sounds like you have already, or are, finding yourself.

Sorry aud, for talking to PS on your thread.