Well, it is after midnight and I should be in bed and yet here I am re-reading all of Lan's posts on this thread! What a life I have! (lol)

I am not directing this to Lan, even though it is on his thread.....it is just an open question to any of the men and I'll go find my bullet proof jacket before hitting the submit button.

I am sure I am probably opening a can of worms here, but I get goofy when it starts getting late.....but so be it. Here's the thing that got me to thinking about this I am about to ask of you men:

Quote for FG: "Maybe your wife read the book.. She took it to heart.. And is acting "As If" she never had an affair."

I got to wondering.....(frightening, I know), but......in the minds of the LBH's what would be the perfect senerio for a WAW that came back home after an A? I'll take a few guesses for myslef.....like, first beg for your forgiveness, or at least ask.....right? Then you want to talk about the R......right again? But, I get the feeling from a lot of men here on the board that they feel that there WAW's that have returned to the M have not shown enough......ah...remorse. That's it, they aren't showing you they are sorry "enough" for what they did. So, what is the perfect answer to all of this? How sorry should she be and for how long should she show how sorry she is......this is the most important question I would like answered.....how long does she need to pay pentance for her sins? If she has been forgiven, how long must she prove to you that she is remorseful and has to pay penance for doing you wrong?

Why does she need to talk about the R? Why does she have to re-live what happened between her and OM......is it to make you feel better or to answer your quesions of curiousity? To see if she thought he was better in bed than you.....oh that hit a nerve, I bet. Not trying to make all of you hate me.....really! I get sarcastic sometimes, but it is just all part of my charm (lol).

So, work with me here. What is the perfect way a WW (as some like to refer to their wives) should act when she comes back home? What do you expect from her?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!