day by day

[girlfromipanema]

If you could wave a magic wand, lwb, what would your perfect resolution look like? Would it include your husband?

(((lwb)))

[kat727]

I am sure that right now my H would say the same thing, but I do see him waiver. I don't know what to believe right now: my signs all point to have faith, we will reconcile but H says no. H won't even try to figure out how to divorce me, I know deep down he expects me to do it, like I always fix everything and so I should fix this for him too. H wants the results but isn't willing to put in the time or effort even when this is something he says he wants. Explain that one.

With your H though he hasn't filed. You haven't filed so his actions don't match his words any more than my husband's match his. I am just worse off in that the court will see that this happens regardless of what I want.
kat

[LL44]

gfi, My magic wand would put my family back together, with 2 fully committed adults and 2 gorgeous healthy girls.

kat, My H has done no work regarding the D either.

[girlfromipanema]

Are you actively applying the DB methods? I know your h is telling you there's a snowball's chance in hell, but have you actually given up?

[LL44]

Darn, they give you like 3 seconds to edit now!

Anyway, wanted to add that I will not be waiting around much longer for H to do the work. My heart can't take this much more.

[JeffSTL]

Hey lwb, its Jeff from St Louis, just checking in on your post

Me: Are we divorcing? H: Yes.
So I said "Then there will be no sex". Looking back that was kind of controlling, but its the truth. H would laugh in my face if I offered up MC or Retro. He is so done with me.

That will drive him crazy, My W gave me the no sex for you, because she couldn't have sex with someone she didn't love. holly crap after 10 years of marriage, my W will not go for the Retro or MC either, I'm just waiting for her to leave.

Good luck getting the new house, perfect time to buy, interest rates so low right now, I cannot believe it. I remember my uncle paying 16% when he bought his house and I remember paying 8% for my college student loans.

We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.

M45
W41
M10 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!!
W moving out June 1st - 10 days - already signed lease

[Yoyowife]

Darn, they give you like 3 seconds to edit now!

Anyway, wanted to add that I will not be waiting around much longer for H to do the work. My heart can't take this much more.

LWB,
You have 75% of that equation...1 committed adult and 2 beautiful little girls. The other 25% of the equation is in the negative part.

[LL44]

Thanks yoyo, thank you.

[Yoyowife]

gfi, My magic wand would put my family back together, with 2 fully committed adults and 2 gorgeous healthy girls.

kat, My H has done no work regarding the D either.

Dangit, I meant to use this quote not the other one. Use my post above to fit this one. The edit button is driving me crazy.

[LL44]

I knew what you meant, my yoyo.