It sounds like she has put you on the right path. She seems on the up and up,especially recommending you talk to others for a second opinion before you make a decision.
I bet when this is all over you will be in a new house in NJ near your family. This is my gut feeling.
There is a reason all this is happening the way it is...not sure WHY..maybe to make you stronger or something. All things happen for a reason and someday you will look back and realize what the reason was.
If you want to withdraw the D in order to help you move then I would do it. Can you imagine what JA and his L might do??
