I'm glad to hear she was a bit shocked about your position. That's good. It means she's experiencing your detachment, and a selflessness in you that wants her to find happiness... that's very good. You come across as a great guy (which you are!!!) and she has to make this decision on her own (rather than in response to you begging her to stay).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
