Many thanks to you for sharing the female perspective with this thread. I just re-read your post about seduction - very interesting - I just learned something new and valuable!
You've mentioned you still feel guilty about your previous marriage and ex-husband. Don't. You have learned from your mistakes and he has not.
Your role as a woman in an intimate relationship is to discover, express and celebrate your inner femininity.
His was to be the strongest, best and most loving man he was capable of being. If he was too fearful, or ignorant, or lazy, or complacent, or resentful, to unlock his innate masculine gifts, then that was his fault. Real men do not wait, they do not play the victim in any relationship, and they most certainly do not let women "ruin" their lives and then complain about it to all and sundry.
The woman does not "make the man". And vice versa. We are each of us our own individual. All we can do is set a freestanding example to our partner, and give them the space and fresh air to do the same. The rest is up to them.
You are a very brave and honest woman. I wish you the very best in your current relationship.
S&A
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
