After 3 long years, H is home - II

[MichelleLT]

Sorry. Had to grab something off the stove.

In all seriousness, I say forward it to him. Along with something about how you are thinking you might need to start working full-time, and if you do, this is what it will cost to care for the kids. Maybe ask his opinion on it?

That way it comes off less "in-his-face" but still makes the point?

[GoingForward]

Do you think he would see it that way? Cause if he hadn't married you, he wouln't have those responsibilities. So, it might make him more resentful, if that's possible.

OMG, PLEEEEEEEASE tell me that's NOT possible! I really don't think I could take anymore hatred coming from this man!

But you're right, he probably wouldn't see it that way. He would probably say, "Well get a job so you can help pay for it."

Yeah ok. Let me work more just to pay for a sitter for our children. That makes sense. Let's both work so much that neither one of us are around for them.

[Virtually_Handsome]

Yeah ok. Let me work more just to pay for a sitter for our children. That makes sense. Let's both work so much that neither one of us are around for them.

It's the American Way!

[MichelleLT]

Which is of course why you're at SAHM. And why my MIL stayed home with her kids until they were in school full-time. And why my parents worked different shifts so someone was always home with us.

It's still reality though. And maybe he would realize what it's worth to have you home. Because it would be hard for you to make more than that plus commute costs a month unless you got some fantastic job.

[Virtually_Handsome]

Do you think he would see it that way? Cause if he hadn't married you, he wouln't have those responsibilities. So, it might make him more resentful, if that's possible.

OMG, PLEEEEEEEASE tell me that's NOT possible! I really don't think I could take anymore hatred coming from this man!

I fear it is possible. A person that is looking for it can find resentment anywhere.


(((((GF)))))

[MichelleLT]

While anything is possible, it is also possible that phrased right, it would actually get him to understand your point of view.

[Virtually_Handsome]

You are absolutely correct Michelle. Timing might be really important.

[klm]

((((GF))))

Wow, I can't even believe daycare costs that much!!!! I think he should know that. He doesn't value you and what you do at all!

What is it with the men and demanding a spotless house??? I think I read on Yoyo's thread her H was fussing about needing a clean house. And just how exactly are you supposed to clean all the time with 3 little boys around...oops make that 4!

[Virtually_Handsome]

W is the one in our house who wants spotless. I never complain about it, a bit of clutter doesn't bother me.

[MichelleLT]

But you are home ALL DAY. I mean, you have hours and hours to clean! *headdesk*