He is so angry. And so self centered. And so controlling. And mean. Probably more stuff that's not coming to me, too.
OK, your history explains, but doesn't excuse, some of his attitude. After 12 years, he really needs to let go of the resentment. Though I know someone who has held onto it a lot longer than that, but still. It seems to me that everything that comesout of his mouth, and everything he does is all based around him. I'm having a lot of trouble figuring out a way to deal with that. I will have to think some more...
It sure sounds possible that the OP is around again. But, maybe not. I don't think you'll have to wait long to find out if it is true, he'll slip up soon enough.
Any logical person can realize that. My H, however, cannot. I have said before to him, "You are responsible for yourself and the choices you make. YOU make your choices in your life." He responds with, "No, YOU make them for me."
I keep thinking of how his actions need to align with his words. Well, his current actions DO support these words he spoke last week: "I'm just gonna keep doing my thing, and you do yours. You got needs? Go fill them."
I gotta get off of here.
(((((Hope everyone has a great evening.)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
It sure sounds possible that the OP is around again. But, maybe not. I don't think you'll have to wait long to find out if it is true, he'll slip up soon enough.
Something else I just remembered right after he moved back in.
He said to me one night, "I hate that you worry about and question what I'm doing when I'm not here. All because of what I did.......Guess I just need to be even more careful next time."
He laughed when he said it. Needless to say, I did not think it was amusing.
Ok, now I'm really getting off!
Thanks, Michelle and Jeff.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
(((((((Thanks, Michelle))))))) I caught up with your thread earlier as well - I hope your day gets better, too. (((((Hugs)))))
(((((GFI))))), sorry I missed your post earlier! Yep, it was VERY rocky, and no worries either. No judgment here in the choice you made that was right for you. (((((Hugs)))))
I just wanted to post real quick that I received an e-mail from one of the childcare providers I contacted earlier this week. It's not "THE" best, but it is definitely one of the better childcare services around here.
$530/week for all three boys.
That's $2120 a month. Or $2650 if it is a 5-week month.
I wonder if I should forward that e-mail to H so he can see just how much I am actually saving him every month?
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Do you think he would see it that way? Cause if he hadn't married you, he wouln't have those responsibilities. So, it might make him more resentful, if that's possible. Or, if you didn't have the kids, you could be out with a "real" job.
I'm not sure. It sure shows how much he undervalues what you do!
