He is so angry. And so self centered. And so controlling. And mean. Probably more stuff that's not coming to me, too.
OK, your history explains, but doesn't excuse, some of his attitude. After 12 years, he really needs to let go of the resentment. Though I know someone who has held onto it a lot longer than that, but still. It seems to me that everything that comesout of his mouth, and everything he does is all based around him. I'm having a lot of trouble figuring out a way to deal with that. I will have to think some more...
It sure sounds possible that the OP is around again. But, maybe not. I don't think you'll have to wait long to find out if it is true, he'll slip up soon enough.
