Help Me Act AS IF, Part 5

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I found making a list of 3-4 VERY small signs that would tell me things were moving in the right direction very helpful. Things like 'maintain eye contact for a few minutes' - things I probably wouldn't have noticed if I hadn't identified them beforehand.

The DB baby steps thing doesn't work for me. Isn't looking for signs looking to one's spouse for reassurance that things are getting better?

My H does things all the time that one could say are baby steps, but they're not. Recently he gave me a lovely compliment in front of some friends--it was about how beautiful I am. My friend later told me she was blown away by that and thought that was a sure sign he wasn't going to leave. Since then, he still sees only S in our future. So, for me personally, the baby step concept is confusing. However, making some goals for myself is something I should do more of.

Anyway, I know I'm a trouble maker and that I'm always challenging the advice I get here--sorry! No wonder my H finds me difficult, huh?

Ingrid, I am so glad that things are working out with you and your H, and Grace, that you are moving into your new life.

I, too, have to admit that having my kids elsewhere a few nights a week wouldn't be all bad! I just wish money wasn't an issue because it would sure be fun to travel and re-decorate and indulge in retail therapy of all kinds!