Your last post makes me smile. I would love to hear that from my WAW. For my W to say, "I realize how hurtful all this was to you and I am so ashamed of my behavior. I am so sorry and hope that you can forgive me." I can see myself just grabbing her, hugging her as she cries, and me telling her that all is forgiven. Someday, I just know it, we will all get to this point. No matter what, we have to envision this and make it so. Keep at it HiC, you can do this. One day at a time...