Except he will. For two weeks of annual training. And a month of training. And this and that. He doesn't even have a place to live during the few weeks he will be around because he's subletting his room. I'm sure when things were great with them, he was just gonna live with her. When they broke up, that put a kink in that, but who knows, they could be back to that again.
I can't wait them out until September when he's back for school again. I can't wait that long. This is just eating away at me. And it's compounded by the fact that I'm not gonna date while I'm M, which seems to be stretching on into me never having sex again ever.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Saying you can't wait forever, and NOT saying that you will never file might be effective. The latest he knows is that you would never file, so he has no motivation to resolve anything. He can just keep floating along, and knows you will always be there, if he can't find Miss Right somewhere else.
But, on the other hand, it is a risky step to take, I don't get the feeling that he will react well to that kind of pressure, even if it isn't focused.
And without thinking too hard, I expect there are three or four other, other hands!
I agree he'd probably see it as pressure. And I agree he probably wouldn't like it. Especially on top of all the pressure OW is already putting on him.
But I don't know what else to do.
And maybe I'm just having a bad week, but I am seriously frustrated with his damn fence-sitting.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Don't try to contact him at all, for a while. Even about the taxes (which I am glad you don't NEED!) We'll help you clear your head, so at least whatever you choose to do, you can be comfortable with!
They banned Jeannette for trying to post her email and deleting it immediately. Now we can't edit anything...
K
Michelle, you obviously are feeling down today. And you struggle for somekind of development. Since he won't do it you feel the urge and the need to do it. I agree with a lot of things Kml says about distance and letting it die (just as T suggested also). Can you still wait for this to happen? I can't imagine if they broke up already once or twice that their R is as steady and fullfilling. Sex is nothing (when you are having some). It will die too...
