Then by all means celebrate it....you deserve to. Though when going through marraige issues that can be a challenge (probably the biggest in divorce busting).
I iamagine your cancer has done something to him....he was watching the women his love suffer like he has probably never see anyone suffer before. The fact that it has affected him to this degree probably is a reflection of how much he loved you.
It sounds like he is giving you the information you need "let him come to you". One of the DB mantras is to not pursue....it will just push them away (I have been guilty about that, though have done much better with it).
But I would celebrate life like you want to....if he sees you having fun, enjoying life....he will eventually want to have fun with you as well....if not you are having a good time which isn't a bad thing.
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sometimes the man that comes thru the door at night is a very mean, disrespectful, verbally abusive Alien....
Usually people like this are hurting inside and this is often guilt that is coming out.....don't believe a word that comes out of their mouth when they are like this, perhaps even pretend you didn't hear him.
As far as trying to put a different image in his mind, perhaps ask him something along the lines of "Did you like my hair better when it was long?" If he is receptive to the conversation then perhaps say something like, "yeah me too, what do you think about me getting hair extensions until it has a chance to grow out". The key for this would be timing and presentation. Ask him at the time when he seems to be the most receptive and make it seem like it is his idea. Whatever you do don't make it seem like it is something you are doing for him....it will push him away. (I would get others opinions on this....it would seem pretty risky.....my W got hair extensions a few years ago...and I couldn't stand them )
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I really long to celebrate with him.
I know what you mean. I recently separated per W request and I took my almost 3 year old twins on a vacation at the beach. We had a great time, but it wasn't the same not having another person there that had the saem love for my children as I did.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
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