I have that too, sometimes H responds STRAIGHT away to calls or TM's and sometimes he totally ignores them. I try not to let it affect me but of course it hurts. I think that they usually don't respond when they are deep in ther DAZE !..at least my H is that way....
Let him be, he'll respond ....eventually.
Just go on thinking about you and D7, that will GET you somewhere !!
Lots of love xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Yes Vali, in email, text , in person. He agreed. he was wth the dog when all that happened so he is really responsible for ALL the bills. i only want half. as he promised.
2 weks ago he said he neededt oreview the bills again.
Okay, this is about business then. No please, please, please e-mails EVER again. This is business and not personal.
Tell him that his amount for the vet bills is X and let him know you need it by X date. Or if he prefers to go the the vet clinic himself and pay it, that is okay too. this way you take yourself out of harms way, in case he wants to spew on you. You take that away, see?
If he doesn't pay in the time that he agrees to, tell them that you will have the vet clinic contact HIM regarding payment due.
No more begging with this guy. He feeds on it and he likes it right now. He likes that he has control over some aspects of your life. Don't let him do that.
You need to maintain control for YOUR self-esteem. Forget about him in this instance. Don't feed his monster.
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
It was me trying to convince him to give it to me. No, I had to pay the bills up front so they could do surgery. he told me to go ahead and do it. That was part of my summer money. Well, ALL of my summer money.
so he owes it to me. he knows what he is doing, I think. The man clearly wants me to suffer.
i agree, he is a police officer who enjoys control.
Hmmm...and he says he needs to see the bill AGAIN? Ugh. Whatever.
Okay, so if he doesn't give you the money soon then you won't be able to pay bills and such, huh?
At this point really the only thing you can do is be sweet as honey and ask for it. Tell him you hate to bother him about it but you really do need it to pay in order to pay your bills for the summer or the electricity or whatever will get shut off...
If he continues to spew...just continue to be nice..."look, sorry you feel that way....blah blah blah"...and I wouldn't bother you....etc, etc, etc...
Okay, I'm crossing my fingers that this works!!!!
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
