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[MichelleLT]

It's gonna be a fine line. I want him to have a bit of pressure and worry, but not back myself into a corner. I don't want it to be so much pressure that he goes fine, let's get D. I won't ask for a decision/answer then. Plus, I don't want to set myself on the path to filing for D (or backing down and not, and then just coming off as making empty threats).

I'm struggling with what to say though. I think pointing out that I am not going to wait forever is good, albeit vague. I think some good "I" comments about my feelings if there seems to be an opening - maybe "I am frustrated with the current situation". I dunno what else. Too much of my feelings can be considered blame - I am hurt that you are pretending to be single. I am hurt that you don't seem to care about living in this limbo. I am lonely. I am frustrated.

I want to have the conversation in person, he's soooooooo hard to talk to on IM or the phone. But after our conversation last week, he doesn't seem to want to see me any time soon. I am hoping that the tax money will come and he will need to give me a check. That would be an excuse to meet up really quick.

And at the moment, I'm considering filing for legal separation and not D. He's having enough financial issues that even though our accounts and cards are split up, I'm worried that I might end up being liable for some of his debt. It's not likely, but it is possible. And I really can't afford that on top of my student loans.