"I try not to hang out but she is always asking me if I want to stay and eat something or watch TV with my S. I usually decline and go about my ways."
"she always wants me to come over to wake her up so she can finish work. ... but wants me to lay next to her and hold her which I do."
"she said I am the only guy she wants to be with. She also tells me that her heart just isn't into it anymore and she does not want to put herself back out there for her to be hurt all over again."
"She then had a breakdown and wanted me to stay the night with her and hold her all night long. I stayed for a while but then had to leave to go to work, but she called me at work and told me to come back over."
Hi, OK I'm a woman I am very familiar with this kind of behavior on my part. It's very obvious from my perspective that what she wants is for you to fight for her and romance her back into your life. She needs attention but she doesn't want to ask you back because then it will be the same thing and she'll be unhappy. She wants you to make the changes and give her the attention and romance she needs in order to be in the marriage. But at this point she obviously still loves you and wants you.
I would suggest to call her up and ask her out for a date for Saturday night. Figure something to do with the kids if you need a babysitter but this is important, you can get her back and timing is everything. Don't wait on this. Make this your priority.
Maybe do what you did on your first date or the first time you feel in love. Then take her home and walk her to the door. When she invites you in say no but give her a very passionate kiss.
Then call her the next day and make a date for the next weekend. During the week, have a florist send her flowers to her work (not home) so everyone at work sees her get them.
Take it one week at a time with little calls or emails during the day. Make sure you email or call her once a day and say "I love you" to her once a day.
And keep this routine (calls, I love yous and date nights) consistent and a part of your life when you get back together.
Good luck, let us know what happens, I have a good feeling about you two.
